It’s really hard to make good friends when you are a mom, would you agree? Unless your kids have things they do that bring you together on a regular basis, everyone’s schedules make it really hard to see your friends.
Winter weather doesn’t help.
The people I talk to the most are the friends I had before I had kids (and sometimes my sisters). There’s glue in the form of carefree childhood and/or crazy bonding experiences from single days that is hard to duplicate with friends you make post-kids.
Those pre-kid friendships are easy, low-maintenance. And that works for everyone. I am so thankful for those folks, but most of them aren’t here, and I am feeling the void.
I was emailing with my childhood BFF recently and we were talking about not having anyone close by with whom we could really talk and how many surface-level friends we have.
It got me thinking. Motherhood sure has led me to a lot of acquaintances.
Don’t get me wrong, I have some terrific buddies here and I am SO grateful for them, but I don’t really have that one pal here that is my person, if you know what I mean – the Laverne to my Shirley.
What’s ironic is I don’t really even have that much time to spend with that person if I had one – which is, of course, the catch 22. How could I ever manage to form that kind of bond with someone with such limited opportunities for glue.
And there you have it. Does this resonate with anyone? How do you connect with your girlfriends in the face of busy schedules?