There is really no such thing as the perfect mom, just like there’s no such thing as a unicorn. Sure, you can take a horse and put a cone on its head, but it doesn’t make it a unicorn.
When it comes to motherhood, there are varying degrees of this charade.
Images and stories in movies and books can give an unrealistic impression of what “good motherhood” involves. And some women work hard to mirror those images. The reality is we are all figuring it out as we go along, and we all make mistakes. Despite appearances, no one really has it all together. It’s not any easier for the next new mom (unless that mom is Angelina Jolie who probably has an entire staff of people waiting on her family, hand and foot).
I have found the people who work the hardest to show you they have it all together are typically the ones that are the most insecure about how they are doing. They use their charade to tell themselves they are doing well because they are better than the next mom. Sad thing about this is that the mom who is more open about the challenges of motherhood might actually feel worse after an encounter with a “perfect mom.”
Take heart ladies! Everyone struggles, and everyone questions what and how they are doing. So don’t let anybody make you feel like you are a lesser mom.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
- Eleanor Roosevelt
The formula of motherhood is complicated by your personal situation, but when you peel back the layers, I believe all moms are created equal.